Love is not a currency ...

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... it is a current.

When love exists unconditionally, it is no longer based on a calculated exchange, nor on some contrived notion of fair trade. It is the limitless, natural flow of compassion. No score is kept and it cannot be depleted. When one maintains - by consistent practice - an awareness of one's connection to the infinite source of Divine Love, one is never left hungry, regardless of circumstance.

I frequently speak with clients who, in a state of pain and fear, make statements like, "If he really cared about me, he would ..." We seek attention and signs of approval from others, often confusing these behaviors for love, itself. The flawless adherence to a set of rules and standards is certainly obedient but, it is not love. Yes, there are actions that are the logical result of kindness, consideration and respect. One certainly hopes that caring is expressed in a language that is readily understood. However, when we cling too tightly to what we believe is the correct language, we run a great risk of missing much affection that is offered to us by other means.

In order to open the channel for Divine Love within ourselves, we must first realize that we cannot possibly know every form in which it may be expressed. We are effectively illiterate to innumerable ways in which we can be shown love. Listen with imagination. Entertain the possibility that those who love us are as illiterate as we, and are speaking their own language as well as they can.

Secondly, love flows more abundantly when we increase our efforts to share it. Simple actions are healing on a profound level: a note, a gesture, a compliment or a smile. How we interact with people - whether they be intimates or strangers - can fundamentally alter our experience of the world. Imagine the energy we bring to a conversation when we expect someone to like us. Now, what we bring when we expect to be hated. The effect that we have on every interaction is far more powerful than we often see.

Look more deeply. Listen with generosity. Open your heart to experience love differently from the ways in which you have known. It is the surest way to let yourself be truly loved.

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. It's as if I was unconsciously searching for this explanation, specifically today of all days, and of course I was taken exactly where I was supposed to be to read this.

Many thanks.

I agree with you. I would like to add that part of the problem may be that people more and more are influenced by what they watch on television and at the movies. There used to be a great deal of subtlety when illustrating characters and ideas. However, more recently, films have degenerated and fallen back to the easier method of showing us what they mean by throwing everything in our faces-screaming points that could be whispered and then heard more clearly. We have become too comfortable with and reliant on these over exaggerated expressions. Life does not work like that. The little things truly count. They add up like grains of rice. Cut out the Hollywood expectations and the world might be a tad saner.

I heartily agree. Thank you.

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Have a beautiful weekend

This article hits the nail on the head. We all keep looking for signs of approval often ignoring the ones in front of us.